It is a common order of operations mistake when people attempt to do more in order to be more. This approach is short-sighted and lacks personal context/sense of meaning.
How would your personal well-being change if you were thoroughly accepting and acknowledging of your BEING before you began your doing?
“When I accept myself just as i am, then I can change” -Carl Rogers
Stop trying to change so you can then accept yourself, aka, stop doing more to be more.
Invest in the being and let the doing flow from there:
- Decide what it means TO YOU to be more.
- Practice being content with what that looks and feels like.
- Then, behave in accordance with those values for your intended growth trajectory.