Ambassador of Expertise
Expertise, like mastery, is an infinite pursuit. Expertise is not something you are or achieve, it is something you practice, refine, and share with the world. Whereas, if you claim you are an expert, you are referring to a title that you have already obtained. That game is over. Therefore, identifying as an expert is […]
Defrosting Your Identity
Have you ever said “I am _____” or “I have _______.” Of course, you have. For example, “I am an INFJ; I am an enneagram 8; I am a morning person; I am controlling; I am a perfectionist; I have anxiety; I have back pain; I have insomnia; I have ADHD, I have a fear […]
Russian Doll Method (Pt. 2)
Pt. 1 I like mapping models on top of other models. Even though no two models are exactly the same, it is in overlaying ones that are similar enough that you begin to see more opportunities for how to flexibly apply them, especially when filtered through the practices of self-awareness, self-regulation, and self-reflection. When we […]
5 Questions To Fuel Habit Change
Another New Year has arrived. I tend to experience new beginnings as both exciting and frightening. Some parts of me are rejoicing about what is possible and other parts of me are expressing doubt based on evidence of how I have fallen short of my ambitions in the past. The quicksand trap is choosing to […]
How Long Can You Try?
“When people, starting out now, ask me about how likely it is that they can succeed at starting a business, building a popular blog or writing a book, my inclination is to ask, ‘How long CAN you try?’” Scott H. Young This is a quote by, author and exceptional thinker/polymath, Scott H. Young from his […]
Beyond Happiness
Dr. Martin Seligman, credited as the father of Positive Psychology, describes and measures human flourishing and well-being based on five elements, i.e., PERMA. P–Pleasurable emotions (happiness, contentment, rapture, elation) E–Engagement, aka Flow (being totally immersed in what you are pursuing in the moment) R–Relationships (family, friends, worthwhile/enjoyable social connection) M–Meaning (a sense of belonging, purpose, […]
Feelings/Emotional Labor
“I commit to feeling my feelings all the way through to completion. They come, and I locate them in my body then move, breathe, and vocalize them so they release all the way through.” Commitment 3: Jim Dethmer, Diana Chapman, and Kaley Warner Klemp At the beginning of last year (2021), I started a new […]
WHAT Are You FEELING?
At Market Force, we teach leaders to distinguish between moods and emotions. Moods tend to last longer in duration because they reflect the persistent background conversations you are having with yourself about the future. Whereas, emotions are more fleeting and tend to be caused by whatever is occurring for you in the moment. Said differently, […]
Empty (And, Reuse) Your Cup
“A university professor goes to visit a famous Zen master. While the master quietly serves tea, the professor talks about Zen. The master pours the visitor’s cup to the brim, and then keeps pouring. The professor watches the overflowing cup until he can no longer restrain himself. ‘It’s full! No more will go in!’ the […]
Observation vs. Judgment
Judgment: “the act of assigning a negative or positive value to an event” (p. 18). At their core, judgments are opinions and assessments that we tend to hold with a lot of attachment. A common pitfall with judgmental language is that it reinforces binary thinking, i.e., always or never/agree or disagree. Binary thinking is rigid […]
