5 Questions To Fuel Habit Change
Another New Year has arrived. I tend to experience new beginnings as both exciting and frightening. Some parts of me are rejoicing about what is possible and other parts of me are expressing doubt based on evidence of how I have fallen short of my ambitions in the past. The quicksand trap is choosing to […]
WHAT Are You FEELING?
At Market Force, we teach leaders to distinguish between moods and emotions. Moods tend to last longer in duration because they reflect the persistent background conversations you are having with yourself about the future. Whereas, emotions are more fleeting and tend to be caused by whatever is occurring for you in the moment. Said differently, […]
Empty (And, Reuse) Your Cup
“A university professor goes to visit a famous Zen master. While the master quietly serves tea, the professor talks about Zen. The master pours the visitor’s cup to the brim, and then keeps pouring. The professor watches the overflowing cup until he can no longer restrain himself. ‘It’s full! No more will go in!’ the […]
Asking, Taking, & Utilizing FEEDBACK
While obviously interdependent and sequential, the ability to ask for, take, and utilize feedback are all separate skills. ASKING FOR The ability to genuinely ask for feedback is a matter of psychological safety. For instance, when you ask for feedback, how safe do you make someone else feel, so he or she can give you […]
Effective Presentation Ingredients:
1. Identity (Who you are being—HIGHEST CONTEXT)2. Style (How you’re delivering)3. Content (What you’re delivering) When presenting information, telling a story, or just sharing information to a group of people or one other person, it is a common mistake to assume that content (the substance of what you are talking about) is of most importance. […]
AWE: And, What Else?
This is the second of Michael Bungay Stanier’s seven essential coaching questions. This is a question I struggle remembering to ask, let alone repetitiously embrace. Stanier’s purpose is to help us all engage in curiosity for longer than how we have been conditioned. So much of what we are taught from a young age is […]
Coaching: A Way of Being
Coaching, leading, and teaching are words that are susceptible to a lot of confusion and mismanaged expectations. I believe the reason for this is because these words are all professional titles as well as behaviors, values, and ways of being. “Coaching is available to all of us and is not a profession, but a way […]
Testing Capacity vs. IMPROVING CAPABILITY
Deliberately making this distinction is about understanding the importance of context to inform your behavior. The only wrong answer is deciding one over the other without understanding what for. Testing capacity is all about performance outcome. The purpose is to compete with yourself and/or others and see where you rank. This is valuable feedback… every […]
Walk a Mile in Their Shoes?
I think a lot about parenting. I am fascinated and saddened by how much parents, in spite of their best intentions, can really lead their kids astray and cause a lot of psychological baggage that is hard to overcome. Parents have a tendency to advise and problem solve for their kids as if they were […]
Self-UNDERSTANDING Vs. Self-Control
As we get closer to the beginning of a New Year, the discussions and advice about New Year’s resolutions are plentiful. In spite of best intentions and early excitement, most resolutions are immune to lasting change. In order to overcome this gap, it is helpful to understand why resolutions, so predictably, escape our grasp. At […]
