Mental Mirror (and Your WHY’s)

Your mental mirror is made up of the trifecta that is self-awareness, self-regulation, and self-reflection. Self-Awareness is the lens through which you gain insight; self-regulation is the lens through which you adjust the ways in which you behave to support your intended outcome; and self-reflection is the lens through which you look back and process […]

“What Did I Do Wrong?”

(This post is a continuation on the mental skill of untangling fact from story“ Fact: I received this text message: “hey man—have a couple of minutes?” Story (I started to make up): “uh, oh… what did I do wrong? What did I write, say, or imply that is being viewed as problematic, offensive, or insensitive.” […]

Untangling FACT from STORY

Ready for an audacious claim? The mental skill of untangling facts from stories is the single most important performance enhancing and well-being inducing tool available to anyone and everyone… Fact: “That which is unarguable, e.g., people don’t argue with it. What a video camera would have recorded. Factual and objective description. Black and white reality” […]

Testing Capacity vs. IMPROVING CAPABILITY

Deliberately making this distinction is about understanding the importance of context to inform your behavior. The only wrong answer is deciding one over the other without understanding what for. Testing capacity is all about performance outcome. The purpose is to compete with yourself and/or others and see where you rank. This is valuable feedback… every […]

Self-UNDERSTANDING Vs. Self-Control

As we get closer to the beginning of a New Year, the discussions and advice about New Year’s resolutions are plentiful. In spite of best intentions and early excitement, most resolutions are immune to lasting change. In order to overcome this gap, it is helpful to understand why resolutions, so predictably, escape our grasp. At […]

Two Types of Challenges

When you are facing a challenge, do you consider what type of challenge it is? When you are coaching someone else through a challenge, do you consider what type of challenge it is? In The Power of Curation, I wrote about how curation is a fundamental skill of teaching/coaching because it’s a form of creating […]

Values (pt. 3)

In Values (pt. 1), I explored WHAT role your values play in pursuing an interesting, fulfilling, and meaningful life. Additionally, I began discussing HOW values become actualized in practice. In Values (pt. 2), I dove deeper into distinguishing between different types of values. These distinctions are meant to help clarify how to use value-oriented living […]

Values (pt. 2)

In Values (pt. 1), I explored WHAT role your values play in pursuing an interesting, fulfilling, and meaningful life. Additionally, I began discussing HOW values become actualized in practice. In this post, I will draw upon some additional models and perspectives on value oriented behavior to provide more depth for how you can think about […]

Values (pt. 1)

As I continue to study and apply principles of performance and organizational psychology, the topic of “values” regularly remains relevant and extremely important. Moreover, the significance and usefulness of orienting one’s life around values expands the entire spectrum of the human psyche. For example, Dr. Paul Grant’s Recovery Oriented Cognitive Therapy utilizes value-oriented living as […]

Mindset: Prep & Recovery

How you see and make sense of your life (worldview) has conscious and subconscious sway over your wellbeing and performance. Another name for this is psychological framework, and your psychological framework consists of the collection of mindsets that serve as the lenses through which your brain filters information that drive behavior. To put it simply, […]