Overwhelmed or Focused?

I just recently stumbled upon and then read The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier. Hats off to Stanier. The book is incredible. It is such a beautiful work of distilled wisdom that is easy to digest, timely, and immediately applicable. Not too mention, […]

The Opportunity Is…

A few months ago, I had a very enlightening moment of self-awareness. I observed this preceding thought pattern of mine in response to feelings of overwhelm, concern, and dread. When I feel these feelings, it has become a knee-jerk reaction of mine to express some kind of reactive and restrictive thought that starts with “the […]

Training Self-Reflection

Self-Awareness provides us with insight based on our experience(s). Self-Regulation is the action of experimenting with our behaviors in order to grow our psychological flexibility beyond what our awareness suggests to be true about our natural tendencies and predilections of behavior. Self-Reflection is the process of evaluating your behavior against the example of your intended […]

Resilience

This word gets thrown around a lot. Anytime a word in the context of health, wellness, and performance gets overly “mainstream,” I get concerned that the word loses its significance and depth.  It is my assertion that many have become overly habituated with the word “resilience,” which has caused people to refer to it without […]

Opportunity Knocks… Now What?

Earlier this month, I wrote about following your “dreams” and what it takes to be committed enough to pursue them when there isn’t any consequence if you don’t. Today, I am thinking about what happens after some version of your dreams have been granted. The metaphorical stage has been set for you to do “your […]

Training Self-Regulation

Self-awareness gives you insight based on your previous and current experience to take the necessary action to adjust your behavior to be more situationally flexible. Your willingness and ability to experiment with different thoughts, behaviors, and coping mechanisms is a measure of how well you can self-regulate. WHAT it is The ability to adapt your […]

What are you choosing to REMEMBER?

Our minds are constantly trying to remember so many trivial, uninspiring, burdensome, and administrative pieces of information, so we don’t forget what we have deemed crucial and pay the consequences. No wonder we are stressed. No wonder we are tired. No wonder we are overwhelmed. What if we actively chose to remember, re-revisit, re-read, and […]

Training Self-Awareness

Self-Awareness is the mother of all skills. It transcends every aspect of your life–for all of your life–and is the gate keeper to intentional, sustainable growth because it provides you with insight about your experiences. WHAT it is Taking inventory of how you are likely to behave in a specific environment (aka context or situation) […]

Barrierlessness

During part 2 of Break-Through Mindset Shifts, I wrote about the importance of cultivating and practicing the skill of pattern recognition. Pattern recognition is actually a sub-skill of what Joshua Waitzkin calls “barrierlessness.” “Breaking down the artificial barriers between our diverse life experiences so all moments become enriched by a sense of interconnectedness.” Joshua Waitzkin, […]

Thought Process

If you are not your thoughts, then who are you? Our thoughts are with us all the time, even while we are asleep. Our thoughts are constantly feeding us information about what we want and whether we are satisfied with what we’ve got. Our thoughts insidiously make us so attached to our point of view […]