I like mapping models on top of other models. Even though no two models are exactly the same, it is in overlaying ones that are similar enough that you begin to see more opportunities for how to flexibly apply them, especially when filtered through the practices of self-awareness, self-regulation, and self-reflection.
When we are “above the line,” we are in “the gain” and biologically more capable of expending energy in order to learn, trust, perform, and adapt. We are focused on what we have and are grateful for what we are getting to experience. Life is happening for us.
Whereas, when we are “below the line,” we are in “the gap.” The story we tell ourselves about who we are is threatened and our biology is triggered as if our life at stake. We are more likely to respond out of fear with an instinct to fight, flee, submit, and/or freeze. We are focused on what we are lacking and how to overcome what is happening to us.
Sometimes I like to say “it’s all the same.” However, this lacks nuance and is easily misinterpreted to mean that these three models do not differ in meaningful ways, which is not true.
When I say it’s “all the same,” what I am intending to imply is that there are a lot more conceptual similarities than there are differences between the models. Therefore, if we can more quickly see this and agree on this, we can play a more infinite game of combining models to advance conversation and contribution.
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